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Take me to your Leader

Posted: August 14, 2015 in Uncategorized

Who would you turn to if you saw this?

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Some people don’t think they are leaders. Whether it’s leading your kids in making sound decisions, your spouse in planning your vacation, or just simply your own life.The truth is we all lead something.

Last week I joined a quarter million other leaders at the annual Global Leadership Summit. There are video sites all over the world so you can join no matter where you live.

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It’s always a life changing experience and provides a mirror into where you need to grow in your personal and professional life.

Here are some of my favorite one-line zingers that I captured while there. If any of these grab you, here is a summary all my notes separated by speaker – Leadership-summit-2015  I encourage everyone to go next year and you won’t regret it!

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Founder & Senior Pastor – WIllow Creek Community Church

Armed with enough humility leaders can learn from anyone – 

Vision is not going to take care of leadership, self-sacrificing love is!

What separates toxic organizations thriving ones? A Genuine leader with deep personal concern

Don’t be a Chief “fill in the blank” Officer, be a Chief Meaning Officer

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Nationally Acclaimed Business Thinker – Best Selling Author

Ego driven level 4 leaders have people follow them. Level 5 leaders have people follow a cause, not them. –

Great leaders focus on their unit, not their career

Life is People

Ed-Catmull

President / Foundar Pixar Animation & Disney Animation

Every great (fill in the blank) starts as an ugly baby

Art isn’t about drawing, it’s about the ability to see

If you spend too much time on any project / task, it will zap the energy out of you

The best work + passion doesn’t always end the best for that person, the company, and the product

Adam Grant

Professor – Wharton School of Business – Best Selling Author

Most people project the future motives of others by their own personal history

Re-define giving. Be a successful giver by doing more 5 min favors

Ask for help as a leader. Give people a way to ask\

Brene-Brown

Research Professor – Univ of Houston Graduate College of Social Work – Best Selling Author

We are not thinking beings that sometimes have emotion, we are emotional beings that sometimes think

You can choose courage or comfort, but you can’t have both

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Don’t leave it all on the field (workplace) otherwise you go home with nothing

Don’t live for your resume, but live for your eulogy

Horst-Shulze

Don’t come to work, to work. Come to be excited and to serve others

When you manage anything you forfeit the right to make an excuse

It’s immoral to hire someone for a function , hire them for a dream

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Feedback is how leaders make better workers, and how workers make better leaders

93% of all American workers feel under-appreciated

Feedback might be 90% wrong, but the 10% right might be exactly what you needed to hear

When you learn to receive you will transform your personal and professional life

Liz-WIseman

It’s not what you know – it’s how fast you can learn

When you lack resources you become resourceful

Comfort is a stealthy being that becomes your master

If you want your team to be relevant? Lead them into the unknown

Craig-Grpeschel

There is way more in you than you imagine

You might be 1 relationship from changing the course of your destiny

Talent can get you to the top, but only character can keep you there

If you delegate tasks, you’ll create workers. If you delegate authority, you create leaders

You’re only as strong as you are honest

What’s Your Punchline?

Posted: July 10, 2015 in Uncategorized

Recently a comedian named Michael Jr. came to make us laugh at our church. He is deemed “The comedian that can speak to everyone”. After making us laugh for 45 minutes, he told the story of how he used his own passion (telling jokes) for his purpose in life.

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He had a life turning moment before going on stage one night. The Holy Spirit probed him with this thought. Instead of trying to get laughs from people, what if you gave people an opportunity to laugh. That changed everything.

Comedy is simple. There is a setup, then a punch line. If you hear a setup, but never experience the punchline, there is an uneasiness, and unsatisfied feeling. But when/if that punchline comes, all that work turns into something glorious.

In your own life all your talents and skills are part of your “setup”. You have been being prepared to do something great in advance. But if you don’t do anything with it (no punchline) life will feel uneasy and unsatisfying no matter what you try to chase in order to fill that void which God has instilled into all of us.

Last week I was honored to be interviewed on the 2nd highest downloaded podcast about board games in the world. I was asked how I got started reviewing board games. The reason went back to an amazing human interest / community involvement story which you may remember (Operation Aloha).

The feedback I got from how that transpired me into becoming a well respected board game reviewer was amazing. The day it went live, I received a call asking if I would help re-launch and co-host a podcast on the Dice Tower Network (the largest board game media outlet that I produce my reviews for). But this isn’t just a podcast about games. It’s called the Dice Steeple and it’s about using God through our hobby of board games to touch the lives of both Christians and non-Christians alike. Within a few hours there were already people writing blogs about this announcement!

The last handful of blogs I wrote were about how God used my passion (board games) to do some cool things for others. Those all used my “setup” in life (passion about board games) to deliver a “punchline”. This most recent podcasting opportunity continues to develop and refine that punchline.

To spin Michael Jr’s “ah ha” moment into the world of board gaming, what if we stopped trying to get fun from the games, but gave the people playing an opportunity to open up? To build those relationships and learn about their fears, failures, accomplishments and dreams? Then walk with them through all of this? I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have fun with the games, as I believe our heavenly father is crazy about us and delights in seeing us have fun and finding enjoyment (just like you do to your own kids). But what if that wasn’t sole reason for bringing the games out in the first place?

I hope this inspires you to begin thinking about your own “setup”  knowing that no person’s gifting is better than anyone else’s.It’s never about the games, but always about the people and building long lasting, meaningful relationships (not the social media type of “friends”)!

Question of the Week

What’s your “setup”? What skills / talents have you been gathering during the course of your life? More importantly, what are you doing with that setup to make a difference in others’ lives? In other words, what’s your punchline? It’s ok if you don’t know. But it’s not ok to not wonder, think, dream, and pray about what yours is. So get dreamin!

Above the Clouds

Posted: April 3, 2014 in Uncategorized

This week my wife Denise wrote about her experience going to work in the friendly skies as a “Sky Goddess”. I think you will all enjoy this.

 

I must tell you how only God was the reason I went work this week!!

The first of every month is time and a half pay for flight attendants who pick up extra trips from the company due to overlap. I was on call as a reserve.

Scheduling assigned me to fly to Houston, which is another flight attendant base, to sit reserve. After I checked in at the airport I looked at the list of Houston reserves and they had 16 flight attendants sitting at home waiting to be called. I was trying to make sense of WHY they would send me to go so I called scheduling.

Hi Frank, this is Denise, I’m not quite understanding WHY you are sending me to Houston when you have 16 reserves sitting at home AND you are going to have to pay for a hotel room for me?
Frank’s reply: I just don’t know. (AND then he says, anything else I can help you with?)

My eyes filled with tears and I walked to my gate. I called Dan and he said, ‘Well, it must be God thing.’
Honestly, that made me more upset and I got more choked up that he didn’t share my misery and tears started down my face and I had to just hang up!

I boarded the plane, shared my story with the working flight attendants and they shared my misery and I felt better!!!

I do have an Aunt (the black sheep) and two cousins (always struggling in life due to their upbringing) that live 45 min outside of Houston, the broken side of the family. (We ALL have one!)
So I prayed on that flight and I prepared a text for my cousin Daniel to send when I landed in Houston at midnight. I have to tell you, I was kinda of nervous. The expectations we have of others vs our own.

The next morning Daniel said:
Hey cuz. How are u? Mom forward me a text from u asking me to lunch…that sounds cool. Could u text me the address and time u would like to meet me.

PAUSE. Wow. Pray. Reply. Shower. Wait. God at work.

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For 6 hours uninterrupted I sat and listened with love and smiled. He is going through such hard times right now that he has not eaten in weeks. He said he drinks 6 essures a day for nutrition. We ate the barbeque buffet there at the hotel and he had three plates of barbeque chicken, brisket, broccoli, red potatoes and a salad with strawberry shortcake for dessert. He was surprised he could eat all that. I was afraid he was going to throw up later but he didn’t. Lol We had not seen each other in 6 years and it felt like 6 months. He just needed me to listen and love on him. Maybe feed him a good meal too.

God is good. When things don’t make sense, you will soon find out what God’s plans are for YOU. Just pray, trust and believe. I still had to act in faith! I had a thought and acted on it.

So, I am in a seat flying back to Phoenix to go back home. Had I NOT acted on God’s intentions it would have been a missed opportunity and a waste of my time. Now I have tears of happiness and joy knowing WHY I was sent to Houston.

Denise King
Serving Christ our KING!

I had been fearing the day that my greyhound Prince Harry would leave Earth for 12 years. Even for the last few years many people had already said “the day that Harry dies is going to be the saddest day ever.” He seemed to touch so many people.

For those of you who aren’t aware, Harry helped start the 2nd Chance at Life program which matches inmates with greyhounds. The inmates get taught a skill to use when they get out of prison (dog training) and receive unconditional love from the greyhounds. For some this is the first time in their life they have felt this. For the greyhounds they get obedience trained to make them an easier placement in a forever home. His charm and loving ways sold the Warden on the Prison/Greyhound Program. It had nothing to do with my power point presentation. He is a true hero and he has changed the lives of many inmates and greyhounds. He gave them hope, and a 2nd Chance at life. He taught me what life is all about (others).He taught me how to live as God wants us to live. By unconditional love, and being a part of something bigger than yourself.

You can see a quick 3 min video about this (which has some Harry sightings in it) here

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However even though my heart aches, I am at peace knowing the events that led up to and around his passing were an answered prayer. How you ask? The night before we flew back from a vacation in Hawaii we found out Harry had another back disc flare up, and couldn’t walk. These usually pass after 24 hours. He was able to take pain medicine and sleep through the night. The next day we were flying home from Hawaii, and Harry looked peaceful on his bed looking around. But he passed away in his sleep that morning. Therefore upon arrival we were expecting to be greeted at the door with Harry’s loving howling. You can hear a recording I took of this a while back as I’ve never seen another dog do this before, but Harry did it every time I came home, even if I was gone only 5 minutes. It’s cool to hear him respond at the end when I ask “did you miss me?”

However, something inside me felt something wasn’t right even on the flight home. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but I knew it was there. As we pulled up to the house at midnight we noticed another car outside our house. It was our great friend Andre’s car. As soon as I saw the car I knew Harry had passed. Before we got into the house he said “I have some bad news.” I finished his sentence for him….Harry died. He confirmed.

Denise ran into the bedroom and got her prayer journal. Opened it up and read this entry from 1/13/14 aloud in front of everyone at the house (close friends had been called in even though it was midnight).

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As you can see the events around Harry’s passing was an answered prayer.

  • We didn’t have to make the tough decision as to put him to sleep when his back problems got too frequent
  • He died peacefully in his sleep
  • We didn’t have to see him in that condition
  • Friends were there to handle the situation for us
  • The pain he went through the night before allowed me to fathom that he was no longer with us when we saw Andre’s car while pulling up. Otherwise it would have been too hard of a shock to bare.

All these events are not coincidences, but God-Incidences to allow peace in my heart that his passing was done in God’s perfect timing in the best way it ever could have happened. It’s obvious God’s hand was upon Harry’s whole life, so why wouldn’t it be there to help him leave this world?

I love you Harry! You’re awesome buddy!

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Cancer Changes Everything

Posted: November 27, 2013 in Uncategorized

I hope this blog has been a funny way to give you a transparent window view into my life and my faith. Today will be transparent, but not funny.

Sunday night I had just got home from a board gaming convention to hear the news that my Mom was diagnosed with stage 3 Peritoneal Cancer while I was gone and was having emergency surgery the next day to remove the tumors.

After the sleepless and food-less night, I was drawn to one of my favorite promises given to us in his Word.

Proverbs 3:5

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.

God has a plan. He is good. All the time. Whether we can see it, understand it, how, why, or not. It’s true. Sometimes our feeble minds can’t wrap our heads around how God can be good in a time like this. We aren’t always supposed to understand it until later, and sometimes never. Or at least during this lifetime.

The reason why our God is hard to believe sometimes is because He is …..well…unbelievable! Who wants to believe in a God that is believable? One that we can put in a box and understand all his ways? Not me!

God has a way of drawing us towards him when we are further from Him than He would like. He tries to get our attention but we go on our merry ways like usual. Sometimes it takes something as serious as this to get our attention, to bring family closer together as we always should be, and closer to Him which he longs for so bad because he is our heavenly Father and he loves us so dearly just like you love your kids.

Before being wheeled in, my Mom essentially said that her motto for life is as follows:

Matthew 5:14 – 16

You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

Here’s a picture of my mom in good spirits right before she went into surgery.

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Speaking the Truth in Love

Posted: October 11, 2013 in Uncategorized

Who likes to be told the truth? Well everyone…..unless it’s about themselves 🙂

Mark Twain coined the phrase “Truth is the most valuable thing we have. Let us economize it.”

Even though it is the most valuable thing we have, it’s not always the easiest thing to do. Especially if telling the truth to someone is going to cause some self reflection which will inflict damage to that person (even though they need to hear it).

Paul tells us that we are to “speak the truth in love”That sounds easier than it really is. See the truth is that people who aren’t your true friends will stab you in the back. But Oscar Wilde says:

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Now this type of stabbing still should be “in love”. The stab is just the necessary means to open the flesh, to get to the underlying wound. Imagine your friend has been shot, there are no doctors around, and you are the only one that can get the bullet out for the chance of their survival. Once the bullet is out you can help stitch them up. Speaking the truth in love should be the same thing. Open the wound, help them identify and remove whatever it is that is harming them, and then help stitch them back up.

Speaking the truth in love has a formula that was shown to me recently from my cousin Dave.

Formula of the Week

Truth + Gentleness = Love

Without the gentleness, it’s just the truth (without love).

Question of the Week

In what way have you had an interesting experience either on the giving or receiving end of speaking the truth (either not in love, or in love). Let us know what you learned from it by dropping a comment.

Life Changing Trip to Israel

Posted: October 4, 2013 in Uncategorized

Earlier this year we took a trip to Israel for a 10 day pilgrimage. It was a life changing event. To see why it was so impactful, I produced a video with my new learned production/photography/videography  skills. This might have you add a trip to the Holy Land onto your bucket list.

Enjoy!

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You’ll Never Be Perfect

Posted: September 13, 2013 in Uncategorized

When I was a kid I used to watch wrestling on TV. One of my favorite wrestlers was Mr. Perfect.

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They showed him doing everything “perfect”. They had videos of him water skiing on one leg with a blind fold, shooting a half court shot in basketball backwards into the net, and many others. I always thought that it would be cool to be perfect. As much as we’d all like to be perfect, we aren’t, and never can be. The truth is we can never even get close to being perfect.

Some people don’t realize that God takes us as we are (imperfect) and uses us, no matter how imperfect,  to do amazing things. We can’t and shouldn’t wait until “we get ourselves right”  before opening our heart to the Lord.  Don’t make excuses for yourselves that you’ll really turn to him when you’re right because that will never happen. There is no time like the present, and he accepts you as you are no matter what and loves you as your heavenly father.

Think this isn’t true?

Noah got drunk, Jacob lied, Moses murdered, Rahab was a whore, David had an affair. God still used them to do amazing things.

What’s your excuse?

Formula of the Week

The time it takes to become perfect = ∞

Question of the Week

Have you ever thought you were not good enough to turn to God? What happened when you finally did? Drop us a comment and let us know.

Trust Your Mirrors

Posted: September 6, 2013 in Uncategorized

Who here hates moving? Wow, that looks like most you. Now who here hates moving in Arizona, during the summer? Right! All of you! Have you ever tried to drive a U-haul truck? The first time you’ve tried this, you look into the rear view mirror, and you realize there is none! Then you really feel like a doofus when you continually try to look in it while you’re driving. After about the 10th time, you finally decide to rely on your side mirrors.

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When you are forced to rely on your mirrors, at first it’s scary. You can’t look behind you and physically see what the mirrors are showing you. However, in fact, all the mirrors are doing is showing you truth. It’s just in a way you aren’t used to seeing it. Mirrors don’t lie.

We are called to be mirrors to be a reflection of God’s light and love to others.

Many times this can be to a stranger. But it can also be to someone that’s close to you, and they need to hear the truth. Many times it’s the truth they don’t want to hear. On the other end, many times it’s the truth that YOU don’t want to hear.

Just remember, if they love you enough to speak the truth in love  we need to learn to trust them as our mirror showing us truth, but in a way that we aren’t yet comfortable with.

The goal is to become a seasoned truck driver. By that I don’t mean by getting hemorrhoids 🙂 I mean by where you rely on your mirrors and couldn’t drive without them. The key to this is finding true intimate friends who over time, we have learned to trust them as our “mirrors”.

Formula of the Week

Mirrors = Truth

Question of the Week

Have you had anyone act as a mirror to you and you rejected it, but then later on you realized it was the truth you needed to see/hear? Drop us a comment and let us know!

Have you ever found out through the grapevine that someone heard something you said, and you had no idea? This can lead to some interesting conversations. I was on a flight back from a board gaming convention in Orlando last week and sat next to a really nice family. By the way, on both flights I had a middle seat, and both times the people on both sides of me were traveling together and asked if I could move to the window seat. It’s very interesting if you put that in perspective with an earlier blog that I wrote about a flight to Zuirch here.

Anyway, they were on their way back from a vacation in the Dominican Republic and to try and make conversation I talked about our child that we sponsor in the Dominican named Frankelis.

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They also liked board games, so we played a game that I had bought at the convention on the plane trays with them. Yes i’m a little nuts!

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They came over last weekend to meet Denise and to play games. They wanted to learn more about sponsoring a child so we shared that as well. After they left, the college student (Nic) who is living with us had heard us talking about the sponsored kids, and decided to sponsor a kid for himself!

Wow! You never know who really  is listening to what you say (good and bad).

Preach the gospel everyday, and when necessary use words.

Formula of the Week

Actions > Words

Question of the Week

What have you said (either good or bad) that someone watching/listening did something unexpected with?